Happy Spring to all! It has been such a long time since I shared that I feel like the long-lost relative no-one sees or talks to. But a lot of things have been happening! After the holidays, we have worked on the basement. We have not touched the stacks of boxes since we moved, soooo there was a lot of going through stuff and more stuff and yet more stuff. Time is an odd thing to me, we use it up and wonder where it goes. We spend time planning how and where we use our time. We even plan who we pass the time with. Sometimes we just don’t think about time as it is going by, or time seems to drag on and on, and other instances time does not move fast enough for us. Time is a resource that all of us, no matter where we live, what work we do, how much money we possess, have the same amount of in each day. We can’t buy more of it, or get rid of it. We can however share what time we have with whom and where we list. And rarely do we keep time to ourselves, unless you live alone with no-one else in your life. I think of the movie Cast Away with Tom Hanks. He was totally alone for years (I forget how many, 4 or 6 maybe?). However, even then he was still connected to the rest of the world because he was aware and knew of their existence. We are all connected that way. It is a spiritual connection. We feel elated when we learn of someone’s triumph over a trial, and we feel grief when we learn of someone’s strife and devastation. I believe this is what is meant by the statement “the love of our fellow-man”.
Love is a very peculiar thing too. It is only seen with our eyes by the writings of people who feel it, or by the actions of someone exhibiting it. Naturally we would admit that it can be spoken, and it can. “I love you” is the quintessential catch phrase for Valentine’s Day. Love can have an actual physical effect on our bodies namely our heart, the symbol of love. I am reminded of the phrase “It breaks my heart”. Love is powerful. The scriptures explain love in the term “charity”, saying “… charity is the pure love of Christ…” and in I Corinthians 13:4-8 we read “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemlly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things. Charity never faileth…” . Love of our fellow man is the true motivation behind every good deed, and it emanates from the heart. We feel good when we act out of love for one another.
We have a love for our families that is special too. And that is where much of my time has been spent lately. My father began to have chest pain in the latter part of February. For 2 weeks he could not walk very far or do the work he had been used to doing on the house my parents are building. He went to his doctor and was then sent to a cardiologist. Well without going into tidbit info, he had an angiogram, which showed his main left coronary artery was 99% blocked!!! We were all shocked and dismayed. He was taken by ambulance about 4 hours after this to another hospital where he was informed he needed bypass surgery – now – right now – this instant! My dad was scared, very scared. We all were of course. But there was a glitch we learned we had to deal with. Since he had just had the angiogram a few hours earlier, which included my dad taking some blood thinners in case a stint could be employed to “fix” his possible blockage, the surgeon said my dad would bleed, a lot! And he would need a lot of blood platelet transfusions, like around 20!!! Well as you can imagine this news put us all over the cliff with fear. Life is so dear, and yet until you’re faced with the immediate loss of it, I am afraid we think little about it. Life is fragile and strong. Everything wans to live. Plants, animals, and people fight to stay alive. And yet sometimes life is taken in an instant without notice. My dad is a religious man and a deacon in the church. He was surrounded by several family members (his er room was actually full), and as my uncle, who is an elder, was about to do an administration my dad asked his nurses if they would like to stay and join in the prayer. I will never forget this moment, it is indelible in my memory, here was this tall, large, older man, in a hospital bed in an ER room with gadgets hooked up to him, he is visually scared, and somewhat out of breath, and as he begins to speak, all is quiet and still. He tells the nurses exactly what is about to happen, how this elder was going to anoint his head with consecrated oil and lay his hands on his head and pray for him and the doctors as we are instructed in James chapter 5:14 – “Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord; And the prayer of faith shall save the sick…”. When he finished he was calmer and everyone else was too. The prayer was said while those all around stood linked hand in hand, tears came and peace came too. After the prayer, the surgeon came in and the nurses began their prep work, we gave our kisses and hugs, and began to transfer ourselves to the waiting room. Someone asked my dad how long the surgery would be and his reply was “It depends on how sharp the doctor’s knife is”, he was doing better, still nervous, but better.
We waited five hours. Around 2:30 in the morning, the surgeon comes out with amazing news. NO bleeding!!!!! Only 1 unit of blood needed to be used. The operation went wonderful, the veins used to do the bypass were in super shape and he only needed 2 bypasses not the 3 or 4 suspected. He came home a few days later, and I was there every day helping any way I could. Time seemed to not exist those days and weeks I spent going to city to the hospital and then over to Mom and Dad’s. But life and love were both there, reminding me of what’s truly important, what really matters.
My dad is doing great and getting around more and more. He is still healing, physically and mentally, but each day he is pressing forward. I told him he has to stay around and get better so he can teach his great-grandsons how to fish:).
Life, love, and time: what strange things we all have and how often do we really contemplate them? I mention two of the three in every post I publish, at the end. I urge whoever took the time to spend reading what I share to:
Love Life & Breathe Deep,